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Sex, Drugs, & Alcohol

Parents as role models — You are a very important person in your child’s life. They learn from you what it is to be a man, women, parent, spouse, friend, and citizen. Watch a young child at play. You will hear your words and see your actions mimicked. Teaching a child through role modeling communication, social skills and respect for their bodies makes a lasting impression and builds the foundation for healthy choices. 

Parents as information centers and educators - Be a parent who stays aware of current drug, alcohol and sex information. Children hear and process information in a very literal way. They will often have misconceptions regarding what they hear. It is important that you correct misconceptions in a non-judgmental and informative way. Don’t give information in the form of a lecture. . . you loose the kid at the first sign of formality. . . Use TEACHABLE MOMENTS. Television shows, advertisement and our well-meaning relatives provide plenty of those.

 

Parents as democratic rule makers and limit setters- Children appreciate having fair limits set. (It may not seem like it at times). Rules and limits provide structure and security for children. Send a clear NO USE message. Let children know what you expect and what will happen based on the choices they make. It is important for children to know what will happen if they break the rules and what will happen if they obey the rules. For example, "Johnny I expect that you will go to the party tonight and return by 10:30. I expect that there will be an adult chaperone and no alcohol or drugs available. I expect you to call me if those things are not true and I will come to get you. If you obey the rules you will be allowed to go to Stephanie’s party next week. If you break the rules you will not be allowed to go to Stephanie’s party next week." Make sure you follow through with the consequences that you agree on.

 

Parents as activities managers and participants- Take the time to do activities with your children. It is an investment worth making. Hobbies, sports, educational activities, clubs, exercise and outdoor fun are all ways for families to enjoy spending time together and enhance family bonds. As children grow they like to spend time with friends. Invite peers to go along on outings so you can get to know them and allow your child the social connection.

 

Research shows children raised in authoritative homes often have the skills to make positive choices.
(Braumind)

 

What's your style?

 

Brickwall families often struggle with rebellion during the teen years.

 

Jellyfish families live with chaos and children often have dufficulty identifying wrong from right or making decisions.

Backbone families provide the support, and structure that children need to navigate the world.

Read: Kids are Worth It!

 

Protective Factors Parents can provide the environment to protect children and adolescents from substance abuse and pre-mature sexual activity by providing HEALTHY BELIEFS AND CLEAR STANDARDS BONDING AND ATTACHMENT ENHANCEMENT OF INDIVIDUAL STRENGTHS